TEASING
It is almost unavoidable to escape completely from harassment or at least some form of aggravation from others. Naturally we each respond differently to teasing and taunting. Those of us who react harshly to deceptions and practical jokes, are often filled with a minority complex and low selfesteem.That is why we turn defensive when numbered out and try to shield ourselves from the aggression of others, often unsuccessfully. It is often difficult because we are so insecure and uncertain of our own excellence.
Usually the reason for teasing lies in the conscious or unconscious need to trigger an emotional reaction in those who are victimized. The motivations behind our teasing others, do not necessarily have to be negative or even personal, though sometimes it might seem that way. Probably it is more often than not a meaningless decision, impulsiveness or even our own insecurities, that cause us to behave in such a way to each other.
It is wise to be mindful when we tease others, because if we are not careful we can easily end up annoying and hurting those whom we tease. We should never tease those who are vulnerable and unable to defend themselves. It is prudent to ponder carefully wether it is justifiable to irritate others and senselessly make fun of them, without considering the possible effects that kind of harassment will have on our hapless victims.
The most uncomfortable sort of teasing is probably one which diminishes us in a cruel manner. In such a position it seems as if the teaser is trying to upheave him/herself using malice at the expense of those preyed upon. Those of us who want to enhance positive communication, should be careful not to annoy others with negativity and insensitivity in these matters. Restrain your negative impulsiveness in the presence of other people.
It is disrespectful and inappropriate to burden others with unnecessary teasing. Ironic humour that diminishes those who it is aimed at, is both resentful and limiting. It is easy to set us of balance by mocking us and the things that are dear to us. Those of us who are sensitive when it comes to teasing, realise that if it takes place in the presence of others, we are twice as consious of its effects and defects. It is both justifiable and realistic that we do not tire and burden each other with thoughtless and disapproving remarks. We can indulge ourselves and others with benign and joyful humour. The same does not apply to humour that hurts and humiliates. That is never appropriate.
None of us are so selfassured that we can except being degraded in the presence of others. We should wisely reject unhumane thoughtless teasing but encourage jokes and humour that will increase our chances of being closer to each other in a positive and likable way. Teasing is justifiable if it is entertaining and positive in nature and structure.
Written by: Jóna Rúna Kvaran; 
Translated by: Nína Rúna Kvaran; 
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