This page is dedicated to the works of Jóna Rúna Kvaran. “My dead grandfather is haunting us” Jóna Rúna Kvaran answers a letter from Steina, an Icelandic girl in her late teens. Letter: “Dear Jóna Rúna, I have kept up with almost all of your written work, both to my enlightenment and enjoyment. To tell you the truth I never ever expected to write to you myself. What a simpleton I was! I realise that you are clairvoyant and a psychic as well. I would like to get your opinion on the crisis I’m in at the moment. I’m just under twenty years old and rather realistic, I´m going to become a lawyer when I finish university, which I start attending when I recieve my middleschool diploma. I live with my parents and my boyfriend and we all have led a pretty good life together. I don’t have a troubled past or any real problems either. My first really dramatic expirience was the death of my grandfather last year, but he was very dear to me. That´s what is bothering me at the moment. It´s been almost a year since his death. About two weeks after he died I started having repeated dreams about him and naturally I thought about what could be causing them. I usually got the feeling that something was troubling him. Regretfully I haven´t been able to figure out what he´s trying to tell me. He was a very powerful personality in life and very well respected. He didn´t think about religion at all and he was very narrow-minded politically. He was always very kind to me and we talked about everything. He refused to believe that there was life after death and if the afterlife was brought up he would say: ”When your’re in the coffin you belong to the dust forever.” I always rejected this because I have had clairvoyant experiences from time to time since I was two years old and I believe and know that we live beyond our physical death. The thing that is happening now, Jóna Rúna, is that I’m constantly seeing him around the appartment as if he were alive and sometimes he can be heard as well. Other people have also seen him and we agree on that he looks very sad and unhappy. What can we do? Can it be that he is in such trouble that he needs help? He seems to be here with us all the time, but there is nothing we can do. At first I thought this was only my imagination and kept it a secret from the others. Now I know that it is not so, because my boyfriend, who usually laughs at everything involving the paranormal, has also both seen and heard my grandfather. He was so frightened, that he has absolutely refused to be alone in the appartment. How can I help him overcome his fear? Isn’t there some sort of a reception when people die? Are people just left to wander around in chaos on the other side? My grandmother (his wife) is still alive and she’s sure that he’s displeased with something and that´s why he keeps manifesting before us. Everybody at home is scared witless and we keep the lights on around the clock because of the constant racket, noise and other unexplicable phenomena that we believe to be the work of grandfather and we can´t do anything about. I´m the one who gets disturbed the most and I feel like I´m going crasy because I see him literally everywhere, as if he is laughing at me or something. Would you please, dear Jóna Rúna, guide me and tell me what you think can be done about grandfather? Gratefully and sincerely yours, Steina.” “Dear Steina, I sincerely thank you for your letter and I know that it is urgent that I answer this in my way at once. I will use my knowledge, insight and experience as before, so that the guidence will come in use for you in the best way possible. Certainly your´re case is quite unique, but there are still a few other similar cases taking place in Reykjavík at this time that I have gotten involved in, due to my psychic abilities and the advances those elements in me give me in handling cases such as yours. In this short reply I will try and establish a solid base for what is happening and what methods are best to resolve a sensitive matter such as this. Hopefully my answers will thereby help both you and others in similar situations to understand just a little bit better the paranormal in life, even though my answers won´t necessarily solve the problem. Unfinished buisness Since you originally dreamt your grandfather so much, it is not unlikely that that he needs to get an important message to his loved-ones and he chooses you as a suitable mediator. That does still not mean that he has not tried some others methods to relieve his soul, even though those tries of his might have gone completely unnoticed by his loved-ones. Since he is now in another dimension, in the world of the dead and his only intentions are to communicate something to his loved-ones that he failed to do in life, he truly deserves our pity. Communicating a message between the two worlds is easier said than done, because usually it is impossible without the assistance of a person who has psychic abilities or what is commonly known as the sixth sense. That is for example the reason that the paranormal abilities of the psychic or mediator can also be useful to the living just as well as the dead, when it comes to forming a bridge between the two worlds. Worlds that are considered to belong to different dimensions, but are still so very close to each other, as those with psychic talents know. What exactly it is your grandfather wants to communicate is impossible for me to say, because I have not heard your dreams or seen your grandfather after his death. It is probably not far from what your grandmother suspects, since he so strongly pursues a connection with you all. The deads´ bond to the living Considering what you have said about your grandfather and his attitude whilst he was alive, and that being that he denounced completely that there was an afterlife, it is not strange that he would experience some troubles passing between the worlds. Especially when he discovers that he still seems to exist after all. It is completely normal for him to go through difficulties in grasping that. If we find ourselves in the kingdom of God (or the afterlife if you will) and discover that we still exists just as we did before, except for our material and physical self, then it is very logical for those who never believed in an afterlife, to think that nothing has really changed. Except that we are in a place that somehow does not suit us because we thought that by dying we would disappear completely from ourselves and others. Home sweet home It is therefore logical that we haunt our old habitats until we realize with the help of those who have maturity and understanding regarding such matters, that we will never return to our former lives and be as we were before. If this is what is bothering your grandfather, it is extremely important to guide him with the force of prayers, and wish for him to get all the possible assistance on the other side that he needs, to understand the situation he really is in. There might of course be other explanations for his problems than that he has unfinished buisness on Earth or does not understand where he is. Perhaps he disapproves of something that you and your family are doing. But he might still only be unhappy with his new existence on the other side, because he always expected everything to be over once you were in the coffin. The service of angels and prayers You ask what is the best way to help him. I say that the best thing you can do is to wish him luck in his new existence and pray to the angels who are in the service of charity to surround him with their love and help him understand his changed circumstances. Angels are mature beings in the service of God who with their loving presence have the ability to help those who are crossing to the other side to reach God and find a place in his kingdom. Therefore you must pray for your grandfather and keep his memory alive just as you would keep your relationship with him alive if he was not dead. By doing so you can help him adjust in his new home and accept his transition even though it is difficult for him. That kind of attitude will surround him with light that will guide him to prosperity in the new and magnificent godly ways he will experience. That really answers your question about him being in trouble. I do not really think that is the case. He just does not know how to reach out for help and that is why you and your family must help him while his eyes are still adjusting to these big changes, by praying that God´s grace and love will prove to be the forces that will finally make him except his situation. No need to fear your dead loved-ones Because of the impact these visits from your grandfather have had on you and your boyfriend. I have only this to say: there is no special reason to fear those whom we love, even though they are not any longer among us in the conventional understanding. You said in your letter that you had a good relationship with your grandfather before his departure. If that is true, then there is no reason that the love and trust you had between you should change, even though he is on the other side now. He survived his physical death because his soul left his body when he died. Within the soul his personality and character live and that is why his feelings for you have not changed, even though you might doubt that now, because his ways of communicating with you are not exactly “normal” for a living person like yourself. Death only exists in the minds of the living By this time he should have realized that death does indeed only exist in the minds of the living. He has discovered that, because he died physically but has proved to you and others beyond a doubt that he certainly does exist. The things he claimed when he was alive amongst you in the conventional way, are only worldly words. They are the statements of a man who was down-to-earth and of little or no faith. Now he is himself experiencing that this is definitely not so, thankfully I must say. That is why I say that your boyfriend has nothing to fear from your grandfather. Your grandfather proved while he was on Earth that he loved you and that means that despite his transition, he still does. That is one of the reasons why he appears to you so often from the other side. If this conclusion is correct, and we have no reason to believe otherwise, then of course he cares for those who are dear to you, including your boyfriend. The house of the Father has many chambers It would be best if you talked about these views with your boyfriend, because they are surly worth considering. If your boyfriend is a Christian then he knows that Jesus said that we survive our physical deaths. He also said that we would blossom in the kingdom of God if we led our lives in a Godly manner. But he did say that the house of the Father had many chambers. A statement that surly must mean that because we have our free will, we can determine with our behaviour in life, what chamber will be our resting place in the end. Perhaps because your grandfather rejected this belief and promise of Jesus, he is having a hard time finding his chamber. He lived his life in the belief that he would never ever have another life. So all his spiritual planning must have been rather poor and material. You can see for yourself that those who do not count on living past their physical death must have difficulties in realizing their changed circumstances, your grandfather being no exception from this rule. God helps those who help themselves It would be best if both you and your boyfriend prayed together for your grandfather´s well-being and that you not let your pointless fears hinder you. Your grandfather did not become a worse man simply by dying. Nobody needs to be any worse than he wants to be himself. Therefore it is highly unlikely that he changed in a negative way after death because the possibilities for becoming better in the bountiful and loving kingdom of God are so much more than can be described. On the other hand God helps those who help themselves, which means, that if your grandfather is unable to seek help for himself, because of his prejudice, then you must help him in every way possible. He is unable to cut himself loose from you, maybe because he feels insecure and helpless. Therefore it is not unnatural to think that everybody who are still alive and care for him should unite in wishing for his eyes to open to his new world, instead of uniting in fear and try to avoid his presence, which is completely unnecessary. He can not harm you in any way and has of course no desire to do so. Of course there is a reception for the dead You ask if there is not any reception for those who die and if they are just left unattended and in chaos on the other side. I assure you that there is a reception for those who die. In all near-death-experiences it is clear that for the short period that the body is not functioning, something new and unknown happens. It seems common that dead relatives, especially those who are the closest kin, are waiting at the borders of life and death, ready to surround and support those who are drifting away from earthly life into the changed circumstances of Heaven. Also there is the service of angels, as I said before, that are ready to engulf those who are dying with their love and guide them through their first steps into the kingdom of God. The chaos of those who are helpless But we can not forget that the personality of those who are dying stays as it was and the will of the individual is free as before. Nobody is forced to except more help then he wants and is able to receive himself. That is why your grandfather is probably not in a state of chaos but rather in a state of disbelieve that causes him be unable to ask for help, because he still does not believe. He seems to be completely bound to earth because of his strong conviction that he should be in the ground, peacefully resting in his coffin, instead of traveling around some unknown paths of Heaven as he is doing know, even though he is constantly visiting you. He will eventually come to terms with these changes but it can happen sooner if you whom he haunts ask for guidance on his behalf, so he will be able to receive the help I believe is already there waiting for him, that will encourage and relieve his soul, if he would only stop letting his prejudice and tunnel vision control him. Psychic or psychotic? If we consider your fear of being crazy for a moment, then there really is only this to say: you have by your own accord been somewhat clairvoyant since you were a child. That fact says that you have psychic abilities to some extent. You are today seeing your dead grandfather and so are others around you. Only the fact that there are so many of you seeing him, proves that their certainly is a psychic phenomenon going on and that has mercifully nothing to do with any form of insanity. Those who do not see him hear strange noises that you all seem to relate to him. This is not at all some kind of mental illness but a psychic experience. As we all know we have to be able to conceive certain aspects of life in a similar way or we will not be able to communicate. This we all understand. If it is snowing outside, everybody who are not blind are able to see that. But if somebody comes and tells us that it really is not snowing, the earth is dry and the sun is shining, we (and probably everybody else around us) object loudly and possibly we question the sanity of that ridiculous person. Hallucination or illusion? If someone were to try an convince of that there is not any snow outside when everyone else can plainly see that it is, we might possibly end up judging that person crazy. We might even call a doctor just in case. The doctor might say that the individual was experiencing some sort of temporary illusion that could be some sort of hallucination. We would probably agree with this. Of course we would not admit that there is not any snow outside just because some nut is trying to convince us otherwise. We strengthen our own conviction because others agree with us and consider the person who sees sunshine and dry earth to be out of his mind. Sensing from the outside or the inside? Hallucinations come from a person´s inside, they are often caused by consumption of drugs or mental illness and are of course not reality. Our senses start to experience all sorts of strange feelings and hallucinations. A condition that is to others a completely incomprehensible unreality. They reject the hallucinations because they are themselves experiencing something completely different from the person hallucinating. What I am trying to say is that since you all seem to experience your grandfathers presence it is very unlikely that you are cracking up. If that were the case the other family members would not see him as well. It is rather unlikely that a whole family is going through a temporary hallucination faze. Certainly is is possible that a person that is considered “sane” experience some form of hallucination though usually it is related to some form of medical problems. The know-it-alls’ and the sixth sense It can be debated endlessly who describes the “real” reality and who does not. There is no reason to stigmatize all sensations that are not directly related to the five senses. It is ridiculous to reject completely the reality of a person like myself, a person that has the ability to sense two kinds of reality. Someone who can see both the worlds, has the sixth sense and is therefore psychic. To be psychic is a normal state of mind for those who are born that way. It is an interesting and special gift, not a mental illness, though some “know-it-alls” might consider it to be. To me the reality perceived by the sixth sense is completely real and sometimes the sixth sense is even more perfect than all the other five put together. Though your family are all seeing and hearing your dead grandfather and usually do not possess the sixth sense, it would be absurd to even suggest that you are all crazy. It is more natural to assume that since your grandfather has such a strong link to you and had a very material viewpoint before his death, that it might affect your connection with him so he keeps manifesting to you. Imagination or reality It can be very difficult to make a distinction between what are the concequences of his powerful presence and what is your family’s imagination due to their fear of him haunting them. What precisely of all this is really what is going on does not really matter the most. What matters is that you all be fearless and that your grandfather realize that he has gone to the other side even though it might be difficult for him and that he keeps you in his mind as his greatly missed loved-ones. Loved-ones that will eventually come to his world and join him as before on Earth. That kind of attitude is healthy for everybody. It is not healthy for someone who has died to entangle himself in the problems of denial, being unable to tear himself from his family. Despite the fact that what awaits him might be an even more perfect existence than he ever had on Earth in the kingdom of God where the love is complete. Or as the ghost said once, in a group of friends: “My dears, I´ve been quite content about myself since I last floated away from Earth and I realized that the life which awaited me on this side of the grave was much more suitable for me. The mission is of course to get my own wings. Something that was impossible to obtain on Earth, even though I was an ok guy there as I am now in Heaven.” Yours sincerely, Jóna Rúna Kvaran Written by: Jóna Rúna Kvaran;      Translated by: Nína Rúna Kvaran; Email .. ...